Ok so im a stay at home mum. Im only 20. I didnt finish school and i dont have any qualifications (yeah yeah yeah). When i left school i started a hairdressing course but i fell pregnant while i was doing it and the fumes from the hair dyes etc made me puke every few minutes so i ended up leaving. Anyway i miscarried and ended up getting too depressed and unmotivated to go back. I ended up falling pregnant again anyway.
So i have a 14 month old son who i stay home to look after and i am also almost 36 weeks with our second child. Yes as my pregnancy has progressed the house isnt as clean as when i wasnt pregnant and it was painless to move around etc. I still vacuum every day and do the dishes and of course look after my son! I put a comment on my facebook this morning “been up since atleast 4am, feeling shattered” and his sister put a comment “welcome to _____’s world having to go to work”!!! I just wrote a comment back “atleast he gets paid for it and gets a break 2 days a week” Like what is she trying to say? That i dont work? My fiance does work long hours (11-12 hour shifts) and night shift so he spends the day with us which is really nice. However he CHOOSES to work that many hours, his standard hours are just 8 hours a night. We arent short for money so anything over his 8 hours are optional. However i am a mum and a housewife, i dont get a break, i have not had more than a few hours (or however long son naps for) to myself for almost 15 months. Not that i am complaining as i love it. But i mean come on! Also adding to our family in the next few weeks and having 2 kids, harder than any paid job! Also they have put comments since the moment my son was born saying things like “make *me* do an honest days work” or “tell *me* to go out and get a job”. I mean if i went out and got a job, all my wages would go on my sons childcare!
Also his sister who puts these comments is 30, has no kids, but is married. They are thiking about starting to try for kids and i told her if she wants any tips or anything about pregnancy and trying to concieve im here and that i have plenty (it took us 15 months to fall pregnant after the miscarriage, so i know all the tricks and stuff they say to do). And she just said to me “oh its ok. your young and its easy for you and you dont know what id need to know”.
I try and ignore her, i have even deleted her off my facebook, but she just emails me instead! I get emails saying “you know you should really help out *fiance* more” or “i think its about time you got a job”. I never reply to these emails. However i am being forced to spend atleast a week with her at new years time and i think im going to seriously kill someone. My youngest will only be like 6 weeks old and she always tries to tell me what to do. When she has no kids. Ugh. Kill me now, lol. I sort of just needed to vent. Sorry its so long
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