We have a daughter who is 2 and I am almost 12 weeks pregnant. I wanted to stay home with our daughter after she was born but my husband insisted I go back to work so I did. I know we could afford it with me not working but he says it’s not fair to him. Our house is always dirty because working full time and being pregnant has taken all of my energy that I have left…I swear this may sound gross but i’m sure our dishes havent been done in weeks….he works swing shift so he even gets days off during the week but doesnt want to help around the house and expects me to do it all. So I told him that if I could stay home I would make sure the house was always clean and there was always dinner on the table every night…but he still refuses?!?!?! What am I susposed to do?? Please help…
My only problem right now not being able to quit because I carry the insurance….but I gave him unitl after the baby was born to find another job…but he just laughs…and told me that he was keeping the job he had if that was the case….
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I’m just kinda wondering what everyone else out there is doing, or planning on doing that is! lol! I am a SAHM and our plan is for me to stay home full time until all of our kids are in school. Then I am planning on finishing the 1 year that I have left to earn my bacheoler’s degree in Elementary Education (have a degree right now in nursing and another 3/4 of a bacheoler’s in biology), but anyways, then subsitute teach at the local school (which would only be like 1 day a week, if that), and then I would start teaching full time after all of our kids have graduated from high school. I think that it’s important to be there for your kids also when they are in highschool as that is one of the toughest times of their lives and they need as stress-free of an environment at home as is possible. It helps too for there to be someone there for them to talk to. What does everyone else plan on doing? I think it’s so cool that more and more moms are making the transition to being SAHMs!
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You’ve made the important decision to stay at home with your kids — Now what?

Work at home moms (WAHM) are very special women indeed. You’ve made a choice to stay home and take care of your children, your family, your home. And now more than ever, your schedule has to be very flexible in order for you to be there for your kids.

For WAHM work at home moms, working outside the home is no longer an option for you. And that probably meant giving up a job, a career and a second income. It’s a sacrifice, one that’s more than worth it.

So your family gets by on one income and you find yourself making adjustments.

Now while you’re at home, you find yourself looking for ways to fulfill your need to be an individual, to have other interests, to be creative.

You also look for opportunities to generate some extra income for your family to meet those emergency needs, to help pay the bills, help with the holidays, clothing, vacations, or money toward your children’s education.

But for WAHM work at home moms, you need an opportunity that will allow you to be completely flexible, be able to spend as much time as you want with your kids and maintaining your home.

So you continue to sacrifice and be a one income family.

But what if you found an opportunity that offered you all the freedom you need to be with your family as a stay at home mom?

And what if you were also able to generate extra money for your family doing something you enjoy or something you have a passion for? Read on.

Would you like to be able to take something you know and turn it into your success?

Imagine — Being able to stay at home with your children, take care of your family, your home and being able to generate extra income or even a full time income for your family.

Well you can!

Do you have a hobby, an interest, something you know, something you enjoy, something you have a passion for? Of course you do — We all do.

And you can take whatever that is for you and turn it into a successful business for you and your family.

Thousands of WAHM work at home moms just like you have turned their interest into a profitable website making a very good passive income. And most of them did it without knowing anything about the internet. And so can you.

A man named Ken Evoy put together an all-in-one, easy to use web hosting service called Site Build It! (SBI!), but he went one step farther. He gathered together a team of successful WAHM work at home moms and had them put together a special guide to help other moms just like you become successful on the internet.

Written BY work at home moms, FOR work at home moms, this excellent tool takes you through the process step by step and in detail. The end result for you is a professional website, one you will enjoy creating.

All that and you don’t have to be involved in the technical side, you get to create and build your site, concentrating on your success.

Many of the moms even get their children involved in their websites.

Yes, you can have it all. You can stay at home with your kids, your family and maintain your home. And you can have a profitable online business generating passive income or selling your own products online.

At the end of this article I provide you with a link you can visit where you’ll discover people just like you that have turned something they enjoy into their success. And you can ask all the questions you want.

WAHM work at home moms like you have made the important decision to stay at home with your kids. Now you can stay at home with your kids, keep your flexible schedule and have a successful online business that you’ll love building while generating either an extra or full time income for your family.

WAHM work at home moms I salute you — And here’s to your success.

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I actually have to young kids that will be affected by this, but it will be most devestating to my still breastfed 18 month old daughter, I am not in a position where I can gradually get them use to being in a daycare full of strangers, that is just not possible, I actually have to send them there without them having much knowledge of the fact that they are going to stay there all day, without mommy around, I am scared for them, I know how tempermental she can get when she cant be with mommy, this will be the first time she is with complete strangers, what can I do to help her and what can I do to ease my own feelings of distress? thank you
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Though women have long argued the merits of whether going to work or staying home is better for the child, few women consider if it’s right for them. If you aren’t happy staying at home, then there’s certainly no way your children are going to be happy.

Some women easily give up their jobs and dedicate themselves full-time to caring for their children until they reach school age. As Oprah likes to say, it is the hardest job in the world-and it certainly isn’t for everyone. Several years ago, Helen Kirwin-Taylor, an American reporter working for the Daily Mail newspaper in England famously wrote a story called, “Sorry, but My Children Bore Me to Death” about how her children were not interesting enough to stay home with and that she would miss her work and socializing with adults. Of course, people on both sides of the argument came out swinging with strong arguments. While SAHM’s slammed her, there were plenty of other women on the opposing side cheering her.

The reality is that taking care of kids is hard work that most often falls to the mom. For some families, there is no decision to be made because economic factors don’t allow for the mom (or dad) to stay home. These days, it is common for both parents to have to work simply to afford paying for the typical bills, food and rent.

In other cases, there are families where one spouse has a very healthy single income, and it is possible for one spouse to stay home if they choose to. If you can afford to stay home and you’re wondering if you are a candidate to be a SAHM, be sure to ask yourself these questions:

Will you feel proud of what you do? When this inevitable question comes your way: what do you do for a living? Will you proudly and confidently be able to say: “I am a stay at home mother!” If you will guiltily respond with a lie or be ashamed and tap dance around the answer because you are worried that someone will cast downward eyes on your because you are wasting your college degree, then you should totally be working. There is no indignity in raising your children should that be what you want to do. But there’s also nothing wrong with not wanting to spend every waking moment with your kids either.

Can you give up the social aspects of work? If you lust after talking to adults and can’t fathom the thought of talking to a 4 year old all day, then you’d likely be better off working. Caring for a child daily requires patience and a selflessness that allows you to give up things willingly and without remorse. There is no hashing out details in meetings, no strategizing with the boss or water cooler talk at home. Instead you can immerse yourself in putting together a detailed schedule to manage your day with your kids, planning healthy meals, and still have heated discussions with other moms about world politics.

Do you like playdates? If the thought of spending time with a group of other moms and their children bores you beyond belief, then this is clearly another sign that you are probably not a stay at home mom contender. If you’re worried that all playdate conversation consists of nothing more than talk about drool and the color of poop, then you’ve got it all wrong. It really doesn’t have to happen this way if you hook up with moms that have similar aspirations and ideals as you do. You can start a playdate group with moms where they are forbidden to chatter about their babies for no more than 20% of the time, and the rest of the time can be talk about starting a home-based business, the state of Afghanistan, the discovery of the latest galaxy, or the latest trends in slimming jeans. Play dates don’t have to be mind numbing gatherings that is just about the kids. There’s plenty of brain power to be used in a gathering of smart women with children.

There’s no right or wrong answer to either going to work or staying at home after having children, and there’s benefits to both. If your kids go to daycare, they will inevitably learn to socialize, share and learn to deal with other humans beyond just those in the household. For kids that stay at home with mom, they will get all the nurturing and closeness with mom (or dad) that will help them grow into healthy adults. At the end of the day, you also have to consider what is not only best for your kid, but how you will feel if you decide to stay home. It certainly isn’t for everyone, but it can have great reward.
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