usually it’s the OPPOSITE — that i SHOULDNT feel guilty feeling that way. my husband i work opposite schedules so we dont need a sitter but we both hardly get any sleep and i am hating my job and when i come home, i feel like i dont have any control over my 6 month’s day and i have no idea what he has been doing all day or when he ate or napped…. i would love to just stay home but i feel guilty like i am making my husband miss out on his son’s life if he got a 2nd job to make up for my lost income… and i dont have the balls to just go in and say “sorry, i quit” i feel so guilty and i told myself i would put my son first when i was pregnant with him, and now i feel like work comes first.
“…. 6 month’s day…” = referring to my 6 month old.
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11 Comments Received
March 16th, 2010 @1:52 pm
If you guys can afford it, QUIT! It’s the best thing I ever did! you won’t regret it!!
Good luck– it’s a tough decision, but he’ll only be little once!
March 18th, 2010 @10:44 pm
Unless your sitter is free, you walk to work, get free food there, and work in grubby old clothes, etcetera etcetera, you will save so much by staying at home that the finances will probably be a lot better than you think.
Don’t feel guilty about it — your baby would choose to have you at home with him no matter what the cost…
March 20th, 2010 @5:02 am
If you feel it would be best for your son to be a SAHM then do it. You could also try cutting your hours back some. I would keep a chart at home of anything important that happened while you or your husband is at home so the other has a clue on how the day goes. They do this at daycares so parents have some idea what has been going on. They right things like diaper changes, feedings, any thing the baby does that could be important to the parents such as, crawls around with other children or stuff like that, im just trying to think of examples. You could also try getting a camcorder and recording things the baby is doing while you or your husband are at work. that way you dont feel so left out. hope i have helped. good luck
March 20th, 2010 @5:07 pm
Nothing is simple. You don’t feel guilty for wanting to be with your son, just the situations that it could create. At least your son has the benefit of having at least one parent home with him at all times, but there are sacrifices to that arrangement as well. There are trade offs to every decision and you and your husband have to decide what is best for your family.
March 21st, 2010 @6:49 am
I doubt that after you have been home for a few weeks you will feel any guilt over quitting. This is the only time in your child’s life that you will be able to spend this kind of time together…the years will fly by and before you know it, he’ll be in school and you’ll be back at work. I miss my job sometimes, but I wouldn’t miss this time in my baby’s life for anything!
March 24th, 2010 @12:21 pm
Don’t feel guilty. It’s society that has put all these ideals on us.
I think that staying home with your children is a lot more important than anything else – even if you have to sacrifice some things.
Don’t worry about the husband either. I know you want him there but this is how it’s supposed to be…
I stayed home with my three kids when they were little and I can say that it was wonderful for all concerned. We actually had more money too because I was able to save by cooking more, not needing as many clothes for work etc.
Please do it for your family
They will thank you one day!
March 24th, 2010 @5:48 pm
I agree with the answers up already – you are listening to your heart – congratulations – your son will simply love to have his Mum there for him & with you happier, your husband will see money is not so important. Love, caring & family is what life is really about – you can never get the early years back again & they grow so fast. Go wtih your mother’s intuition – that’s why God gave us it – to help when we have tough decisions to make!
March 27th, 2010 @6:14 pm
how much are you paying for child care? quitting a job and staying at home will take that cost away which will offset your monthly bills.
OR…consider finding a job you can do remotely from home, maybe part-time.
they are out there, you just gotta look for them. maybe you could be a nanny for another small child around your child’s age and charge for that…then you would make a little $. 
but DON’T feel guilty about it. being a sahm has been wonderful for me. just talk w/ your husband and don’t make any rash decisions…weigh the pros and cons financially.
March 28th, 2010 @4:26 am
I went from a working mom to a SAHM shortly before my second child’s birth. Yes sometimes its incredibly lonely but for the most part im busy with housework and i love spending time iwth my kids and knowing what they ate and how they are doing. Its cheapr in the long run for us because we dont have to pay babysitting etc…like we would if i worked. My paycheck would go mainly to daycare so its like i worked to pay a daycare to take care of my children when i can do it myself so i just stay home.
I would talk to your husband and tell him your thoughts on it. Right now its a crucial time to bond with your baby. The first year is filled with so many firsts! He may not hav to get a second job either if you guys work a budget out and give up extras.
Hope you figure it out!
March 30th, 2010 @7:46 pm
Being a sahm is definitely worth it. Your baby will thrive all the more if you stay with him. Babies need their mommies, that’s just what’s best for them. The first three years of life is the most critical time for a babies brain development and love, hugs, talking, and attention from mommy is what they need the most. This is when their foundation/personality is developed. Cherish these very few baby years because they will fly by. I stayed home with my two daughters and they are now both considered gifted. I now stay with my 7 wk old.
March 31st, 2010 @9:00 pm
I’ve been a SAHM for almost 14 months now. For the last couple of years (before my son) I had worked 2 jobs and my husband worked one with a lot of overtime. I didn’t know how we were going to get by on just his income. Some how we are doing just fine. It works its self out. I couldn’t imagine it any other way.
A big reason I didn’t go back to work though, is that after giving birth my pelvis didn’t go back the way it was supposed to. I had horrible pains in the center of it while standing for long periods, walking, or siting the wrong way. The job I had required a lot of standing and walking. I’m still having problems with it.
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