At the grocery store that i shop at,there is a girl working there that I think is the nicest sweetest thing. I always stop to say hi and talk to her. I don’t know her from anywhere else but that store. Recently i had made a new friend ( a girl) who I was hanging out with and the girl from the store showed up at her house. turns out its her step sister. anyway…later I a get a call from my friend saying that her step sister told her that I was HEAVY into drugs and was trouble. i have never done drugs in my life!!! and i only see that girl when im buying grocerys!!! why would she think that…let alone say that!!! I am confused and a little hurt that she would make up such horrible things. I see her at the store now and i don’t even know what to say to her. I am so mad about what she has said. how do i deal with this? a stranger totally slandering me!!! I am the president of the PTA at my sons ele. school, soccer team manager, i volunteer at plannedparenthood and humane society…..
and do alot of other charity work in my community. what if she was to say these lies to some of the people I work with!!! what do I do? im shocked and confused.. what is wrong with people!?!
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and do alot of other charity work in my community. what if she was to say these lies to some of the people I work with!!! what do I do? im shocked and confused.. what is wrong with people!?!
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14 Comments Received
March 11th, 2010 @10:46 am
i would confront her and ask her what her problem is use crush her verbally not physically
March 12th, 2010 @12:20 pm
sounds like gossip central and i would stay away from that fiasco! nothing but trouble to come…
March 14th, 2010 @2:52 am
wow the same thing happend to me but iwas doing weed anyways what you should do is go up to her and ask her if she has a minute and ask her why she told you friend that i stoped smoking weed
March 14th, 2010 @2:59 am
i would, but don’t do it to fight her, and dont do it at her work.
say something like ” “X” i heard that you thought i was doing drugs and in trouble alot of the time, i am not sure where you heard this from, but it is untrue…etc etc etc”
again, dont go to her wanting to fight or yell about it, go to her trying to figure out the truth.
i hope it works out for you..
March 14th, 2010 @10:12 pm
first of all maybe she didnt really say them…the grocery store is a HUGE place for gossip…….believe me…its amazing what can be said…so justthink about that,,,
March 17th, 2010 @5:31 pm
The only thing you can do is ask her politely if and why she said these things about you and let her know that no mattter where she heard it from that it is not true and you would appreciate it if she would refrain from spreading rumors about you. Other than that, just stay away from her (because she obviously likes the drama) and let your reputation speak for itself…your real friends either know it’s not true or have enough character and common sense to ask you about something before they go spreading it around. Good Luck!
March 17th, 2010 @9:19 pm
No you should not comfort her. You should confront her in a gentle but firm way and ask her about what you heard.
Who knows maybe it is not true what your friend reported!
March 20th, 2010 @10:58 pm
some people have to make things up to make themselves feel better sad i know but its true to me i would just let it go as confrontation will get you nowhere she will just say she never said it
March 23rd, 2010 @3:50 pm
I would confront Her (in a non-threatening way) and calmly say “I heard that you made some untrue comments about me. I can’t imagine what prompted you to do this, but I suggest that if you have anything to say about me in the future, that you say it to my face. Otherwise I will bring you up on slander charges”.
March 24th, 2010 @4:54 pm
The problem with third hand gossip is, there is so much room for error. If you ever confront anyone about third hand gossip make sure you have the person who told you the gossip in the first place and the person who allegedly said the stuff and then talk it out.
March 25th, 2010 @10:23 pm
i would let her know its slanderous to defame your character and to say false things about you. especially that you are a drug addict bc u are not a druggie nor associate yourself with any. to spread those lies and rumors hurts your reputation in a community that you so affluently support and represent.
March 28th, 2010 @7:39 pm
First, it may be a genuine case of mistaken identity, she may think you are someone else entirely. Or, she may have been told these lies about you by someone else and SHE believes that they are true and was simply trying to protect her step sister from someone she thinks (incorrectly) is a bad person.
You could ask your new friend to get all three of you together to clear the air; you could ask for a private meeting and inform her she is mistaken and to please quit repeating these untruths, and if it continues you can sue her for slander.
March 29th, 2010 @12:07 am
Wow. I am so sorry this person made such trouble for you.
I would invite both your friend and her stepsister out for coffee (your treat) because there are some things that you want to make clear to both of them – simultaneously – so there will be no further confusion. You’re not angry by any means – but you are terribly sad that someone has seen fit to poison two such nice folks with lies.
Then, with proof in hand, explain to these people that you have heard some vicious and untrue things about you. You don’t know who started such rumors or why they would try to run someone’s good name into the ground.
Show them your certificates of honor from the groups and charities you work with and explain that a person like this – would not be into drugs or “trouble.”
DO NOT ALLOW EITHER PERSON TO RESPOND. YOU ARE NOT DEBATING AN ISSUE – YOU ARE INFORMING THESE PEOPLE. Before either can say anything at all; get up, collect your things, pay the tab and say goodbye.
Again, do not allow either person to respond. Let them sit and stew in their own juices.
Whether they want to remain friends with you is up to them.
I would question whether I would want to remain friends with either of them.
As for shopping at the store – continue to shop at the store. Go through Stepsister’s checkout lane and act as if nothing has happened. Be pleasant. Be sweet. Be genuine.
But be just a wee bit cautious.
March 31st, 2010 @9:52 pm
You need to say to her next time you see her. “hey, I was wondering, why do you think I use drugs?” Perhaps she is confusing you with someone else. This is a communication issue and one that needs to be resolved ASAP. This girl is spreading some bad rumors that could ruin your rep.
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